In Repair

Healing from emotional abuse

  • Welcome to 2025!

    Christmas was wonderful. I wasn’t hosting, for the first time in many years, and it was great! The whole family went to Stepdad’s, and we all had a wonderful time. I then drove my sister back to her place on the other side of the country – a 4.5 hour journey took over 8, but… Read more

  • Different Journeys

    I’ve been staying with my sister for the last week. We’ve done a lot of work on her new house (sorting through boxes, doing tip runs, that kind of thing), some cooking (an excellent hotpot, a roast dinner – her first attempt! – fajitas… we’ve eaten well!), some watching of god-awful films (seriously, if you… Read more

  • Metamorphosis

    So I mentioned in my last post that this New York trip was life-changing, but was far too ill at the time to really delve into what that meant. I wanted to note that I’d had a great time, and that I felt differently about myself because of it, but I was dying (and am… Read more

  • New York, New York!

    Wow, what an amazing, life-changing experience. The workshop I was attending that paid for me to go was incredible; it was really interesting, and the other mods were fantastic, I had such a great time meeting them all and getting to know them and their little corners of the internet. Any Imposter Syndrome I felt… Read more

  • On Courage

    I’ve been quiet of late, but busy in real life so that’s good. I have exciting news! I’ve been asked to go to New York for a workshop, expenses paid, thanks to the moderating I’m doing. I had to make my mind up quickly as I only had 3 weeks to prepare (if I was… Read more

  • On Growing Up

    My daughter, having waiting 6 months for a property, has been shown (and accepted) a flat. She has 4 days to move out between picking the keys up yesterday and having to be out of where she is now on Monday. It’s all go, and there’s almost no time to think. It’s completely unfurnished, not… Read more

  • Relapse

    I’m struggling a fair bit with thoughts about getting back in touch with Mum. I won’t do it – I have too much self-preservation now to fold when I know I’m not strong enough, but the intrusive thoughts are still there. It’s difficult, because in spite of everything I’m going through, have gone through, and… Read more

  • A Catch Up

    So after FIFTEEN emails, the Ourtime issue has finally been resolved after the final email from me pointed them to their own privacy policy and detailed how they’re breaking it, so finger’s crossed. I had a lovely weekend break with my Cardiff friends – lots of resting and relaxing (and drinking!). We made curry together,… Read more

  • OurTime

    A while ago I had an email addressed to ‘Thomas’ but to my email, from a website called ‘Ourtime’ thanking me for signing up and asking me to click a link to verify, which obviously i did not do because I had not signed up for anything. I assumed that by not verifying, that would… Read more

  • Birthdays, and other Animals

    It’s my birthday tomorrow. I’m going out for a nice meal with hubby and his mum tonight, which I’m really looking forward to. Then off for a cocktail evening with BFF and daughter at Stepdad’s on the day itself. I’m well and happy, if not a little warm – I’m finding the heat really oppressive… Read more