In Repair

Healing from emotional abuse

  • On Conflict

    I hate conflict, I have for as long as I can remember. The earliest clear memory I have of it is when I was 8 or so, and I met a couple of the neighbour’s kids (who I didn’t know) at the back of our garden. When I inquired as to why the two of… Read more

  • Chronic Pain

    It’s a bitch. Today is a particularly bad day, I’m using a stick to navigate the house, and I’m feeling pretty sorry for myself. I have nerve damage in both legs from a nicked sciatic nerve during surgery in 2010 (ruptured ectopic pregnancy, but that’s a whole other post). The facet joints in my back… Read more

  • Rolling with The Punches

    I have good days and bad days, like everyone does. Yesterday was a good day – a great day – that I’d been looking forward to all week. Went to visit some friends I’d not seen for a few months, took a look at the Selfie exhibit at the National Museum of Wales (oh my… Read more

  • The Northern Lights

    I still have not seen them, despite the solar flares and geomagnetic storms causing the Aurora to be seen ‘throughout most of the UK’ except, apparently, Wales. Harumph. I did, however, see a beautiful moon (excuse the poor photography skills), and a little bat. Click HERE and HERE for bat videos. Read more

  • A Timely Reminder

    All credit to redgoldsparks! Read more

  • 6 Months On…

    It’s been a tough 6 months. There have been times I’ve wanted to reach out to mum, during tough periods that I know will be difficult for her, but self-preservation has kicked in before my compassion puts me in a situation where I’m drawn back in. My stepdad is finally filing for divorce and, as… Read more

  • With a nod to John Mayer

    So here we are. 42 years old, very recently NC from a narcissistic mother with whom a LC relationship wasn’t working for either of us. In my 3 years in therapy – ironically started to deal with my father’s death in 2020, but quickly came to the epiphany that he wasn’t the real problem –… Read more