Narcissism
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I’m struggling a fair bit with thoughts about getting back in touch with Mum. I won’t do it – I have too much self-preservation now to fold when I know I’m not strong enough, but the intrusive thoughts are still there. It’s difficult, because in spite of everything I’m going through, have gone through, and… Read more
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So after FIFTEEN emails, the Ourtime issue has finally been resolved after the final email from me pointed them to their own privacy policy and detailed how they’re breaking it, so finger’s crossed. I had a lovely weekend break with my Cardiff friends – lots of resting and relaxing (and drinking!). We made curry together,… Read more
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How a dress from 20 years ago triggered an epiphany Last night in therapy we talked about the differences between a relationship and enmeshment. How a relationship recognises the other person as their own entity – their achievements and failures, highs and lows, are all their own – whereas with enmeshment they are an extension… Read more
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There have been times in my life where I have not done a lot. Arguably I still don’t some of the time. Some of it is due to being unable to work because of pain levels, and the effects of the medication I have to take to manage it. Some of it is down to… Read more
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It’s a bitch. Today is a particularly bad day, I’m using a stick to navigate the house, and I’m feeling pretty sorry for myself. I have nerve damage in both legs from a nicked sciatic nerve during surgery in 2010 (ruptured ectopic pregnancy, but that’s a whole other post). The facet joints in my back… Read more
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It’s been a tough 6 months. There have been times I’ve wanted to reach out to mum, during tough periods that I know will be difficult for her, but self-preservation has kicked in before my compassion puts me in a situation where I’m drawn back in. My stepdad is finally filing for divorce and, as… Read more
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So here we are. 42 years old, very recently NC from a narcissistic mother with whom a LC relationship wasn’t working for either of us. In my 3 years in therapy – ironically started to deal with my father’s death in 2020, but quickly came to the epiphany that he wasn’t the real problem –… Read more